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That night, I felt the depths of my mistakes. I felt my scars. With a single glance, I knew her touch would take it all away. I craved it more than anything. I knew she would be a tempting, beautiful mistake. One I would make again and again Callypso Lillis is a siren with a very big problem, one that stretches up her arm and far into her past. For the last seven years she's been collecting a bracelet of black beads up her wrist, magical IOUs for favors she's received. Only death or repayment will fulfill the obligations.

Only then will the beads disappear. Everyone knows that if you need a favor, you go to the Bargainer to make it happen. He's a man who can get you anything you want And everyone knows that sooner or later he always collects. But for one client, he's never asked for repayment. Not until now. I don't believe in fairy tales and Prince Charming. I believe in fear. He taught me how to be afraid. We first met on a playground on a wonderful summer day. It was the first time he hurt me and it wouldn't be the last. For 10 years, he's been my tormentor and I've been his forbidden.

But then he went away, and yet I was still afraid. Now, he's back, and wants more than just my tears. You see Haven Antonelli and Carmine DeMarco grew up under vastly different circumstances. Haven, a second-generation slave, was isolated in the middle of the desert, her days full of hard work and terrifying abuse. Carmine, born into a wealthy Mafia family, lived a life of privilege and excess.

Now a twist of fate has caused their worlds to collide. Entangled in a web of secrets and lies, they learn that while different on the surface, they have more in common than anyone would think. In a world full of chaos, where money and power rule, Haven and Carmine yearn to break free, but a string of events that began before either of them were born threatens to destroy them instead. Murder and betrayal are a way of life, and nothing comes without a price - especially not freedom. But how much will they have to sacrifice? Can they escape their pasts? And, most of all, what does it mean to be free?

I listened to this book and the narrator was fantastic. This book read like a movie. It was descriptive, concise, and paced evenly. It was about freedom and redemption too. This book was much more than a tale about child slavery. It was a story of people trying to grow and move out of the shadows of their parents. Haven and her mother grew up as slaves in the house of Michael Antonelli until the day her mother convinced her to run away. Her mother Miranda overheard the lady of the house asking master Michael to get rid of Haven, so Miranda asked Haven to run for help.

Her attempt to escape her slavers led her to Dr. Vincent DeMarco. Vincent DeMarco was an angry man. His wife was murdered and his youngest son Carmine was acting up from grief. He was now a Consigliere, but now the mafia wants son Carmine. DeMarco is trying everything he can to protect his son Carmine, but had to follow orders as they were all dispensable. The addition of Haven to their lives complicated everything. Haven, on the hand, did all she could to avoid everyone in the household. She was used to living in the stables or basement, and she did not trust that the DeMarco household would be different from her prior home.

Hope was a dangerous thing for slaves like her. As the story began to unfurl, it became clear that Dr. Haven was a pawn in a dangerous mob agenda, but then so was Carmine, the mafia Principe. The author did a great job with laying the foundation, and keeping the story interesting. Yes, there was sad events, but there was happy events and even funny scenes. The author mixed things up by interjecting characters like Dominic and Nicholas, Dia and even Aunt Celia, so there was a continual break in the serious tone of the novel.

I had a love-hate relationship with Vincent DeMarco, but I came to understand him as the novel went on, and I also came to find compassion for his actions. Carmine was an impulsive kid that you wanted to smack on the back of his head and give a high-five at the same time. The narrator did a great job in giving each character very distinct voices, and I loved that about the audiobook.

But I really enjoyed this book and look forward to sequel. It's like a New Adult Romance but a little more 'vanilla' on the 'hot factor' meets the 'Family' like Godfather type family meets slave like slave trafficking meets I had SO many recommend this to me Over and over, no clue why. Maybe it's because organized crime doesn't usually make it's way into my romance books. For that matter, human trafficking doesn't much, either. This would translate SO well to film, in my opinion. And I do actually have theater and college film experience, so I'm not just whistling Dixie.

In full disclosure, I did receive an eBook via NetGalley, but I also purchased the eBook and audio, so it should be MORE than obvious that I am willing to spend money on this book and these are my honest opinions. Outstanding character development and a tightly woven tale of the lives of two damaged young people who try to break from their past. Narrator is fantastic. Kudos to J. Well done!!! I was shocked at just how much I loved this story and I definitely suggest that it is listened to by all!!

There is also I found a countiunation of this story and recorded on another audiobook called Sempre redemption am immediately going to be buying it and downloading it. This is one of those stories that will stick with you long after you're done listening to it. The narrartion is so fantasic, and it reads like a movie. I would love to see this on screen! It could be so great with the right people and bring more focus to human trafficking and slavery. Can't believe it took me so long to read this book I went into it without knowing anything about it.

Is definitely a must read in a page turner. What did you love best about Sempre? This book was amazing, I would love to read more from J. Darhower, and what really brought it to life was the narrator, Carla Mercer-Meyer she was incredible. I read it twice and look forward to reading it a third time. I have never, ever read a book more than once. The compositions according to the present invention can be prepared in the usual manner by a person skilled in the art. They can be in the form of a cast product and, for example, in the form of a stick or tube, or in the form of a dish which can be used by direct contact or with a sponge or alternatively in a boiling pan.

In particular, they find an application as cast foundations, cast blushers or eyeshadows, lipsticks, care bases or care balms for the lips and concealer products. They can also be in the form of a soft paste or alternatively a gel or a more or less fluid cream. In this case, they can constitute foundations or lipsticks, lip glosses, suncare products or skin-colouring products.

These presentation forms are prepared according to the usual methods of the fields under consideration. These compositions for topical application can in particular constitute a cosmetic or dermatological protective, treatment or care composition for the face, for the neck, for the hands or for the body for example a care cream, antisun oil or body gel , a make-up composition for example a make-up gel, cream or stick or an artificial tanning composition or skin-protecting composition. Of course the amount of the composition applied and the schedule of applying the composition will depend on the exact effect desired to be achieved.

These quantities correspond to make-up products as well as sun-care products. The exact quantity will depend on the desired result on the skin, lips of ends of the body e. For example, with a shiny product such as a lip product, more product will be typically applied to obtain the desired shiny affect. On the other hand, with a non-transferred product, less product will be typically applied to obtain less transfer.

Other features of the present invention will be come apparent in the course of the following description of exemplary embodiments which are given for illustration of the invention and are not intended to be limiting thereof. In the following examples, all percentages are percentages by weight based on the total weight of the composition. The names of certain ingredients are given as the CTFA name. Procedure []. Phase B is prepared by dispersing the Bentone in the hydrocarbon-based oil. This lipstick in stick form gives a satin to gloss effect, is comfortable to wear over time, non-greasy and non-sticky, and has good transfer-resistance properties.

Examples 2 to 6 were performed according to the same procedure as that described for Example 1. The sensory properties of Comparative Examples 3, 4, 5 and 6 were compared with those of Example 2 according to the present invention. The esters of low molecular mass, namely isononyl isononanoate and octyldodecyl neopentanoate of Example 2, were replaced in Example 3 with hydrogenated polyisobutene whose molecular mass is The transfer-resistance properties of the composition of Example 2 were judged to be superior to those of the composition of Example 3.

They were evaluated 15 minutes after applying lipstick, by kissing a sheet of paper kiss test. The esters of low molecular masses are thus favourable to transfer resistance. The lipstick of Example 2 was judged to give a satin to gloss effect and to be comfortable. The silicones, namely the phenyltrimethicones 20 and cSt of Example 2, were replaced with polybutene and hydrogenated polyisobutene in Example 4.

The proportions of these alkanes were chosen so as to obtain a viscosity close to that of the silicone mixture. The transfer-resistance properties of the composition of Example 2 were judged to be superior to those of the composition of Example 4. On the other hand, this latter composition gave a film which was too oily. The non-volatile silicones are thus favourable to transfer resistance, without making the lips greasy.

The dispersant Solsperse 21 of Example 2 was replaced in Example 5 with hydrogenated polyisobutene whose molecular mass The composition of Example 5 gives a film on the lips which is less glossy than that of the composition of Example 2 for a similar transfer. The dispersant of the invention is thus favourable to the gloss of the film for comparable transfer-resistance properties. Example 6 gives a film on the lips which is less glossy than that of the composition of Example 2 for a similar transfer. The coloured particulate phase C is ground into phase A using a three-roll mill. Phase E is prepared by successively weighing out the constituents and mixing them together with stirring.

The inert particulate phase D is ground into phase E using a three-roll mill. The final mixture is then cast in suitable moulds in order to obtain sticks. The esters of low molecular mass, namely isononyl isononanoate and octyldodecyl neopentanoate of Example 2, were replaced in Example 7 with a volatile silicone D4. The composition of Example 7 was judged to be very rich when applied and gave a film which was very matt and adhered strongly to the lips, unlike the composition of Example 2. The hydrocarbon-based oils of low molecular mass are thus favourable to the gloss and wear comfort.

The composition of Example 8 is prepared according to the same procedure as that of Example 1. The gloss, wear-comfort and transfer-resistance properties are comparable to those of the composition of Example 2. Obviously, numerous modifications and variations of the present invention are possible in light of the above teachings. It is therefore to be understood that, within the scope of the appended claims, the invention may be practiced otherwise than as specifically described herein. All patents and other references mentioned above are incorporated in full herein by this reference, the same as if set forth at length.

The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil is an ester. The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil is an ester of a C 2 to C 18 acid. The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil is selected from the group consisting of esters of C 2 to C 20 alcohols and esters of C 2 to C 8 polyols, and mixtures thereof. The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil is a branched acid ester. The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil is selected from the group consisting of neopentanoic acid esters, isononanoic acid esters, and mixtures thereof.

The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil is selected from the group consisting of isodecyl neopentanoate, isotridecyl neopentanoate, isostearyl neopentanoate, octyldodecyl neopentanoate, isononyl isononanoate, octyl isononanoate, isodecyl isononanoate, isotridecyl isononanoate, isostearyl isononanoate, and mixtures thereof. The composition according to claim 1 , further comprising a dispersant, wherein said dispersant comprises at least one non-volatile hydrocarbon-based compound which is compatible with said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil and is incompatible with said non-volatile silicone compound.

The composition according to claim 11 , wherein said dispersant has solubility parameters such that The composition according to claim 11 , wherein said dispersant has solubility parameters such that 4. The composition according to claim 11 , wherein said dispersant has solubility parameters such that 5. The composition according to claim 11 , wherein said dispersant has a chemical structure comprising at least one nonionic polar group selected from the group consisting of —COOH; —OH;. The composition according to claim 11 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based compound has a chemical structure comprising at least one nonionic polar group selected from the group consisting of —COOH; —OH;.

The composition according to claim 11 , wherein said non-volatile hydrocarbon-based compound is selected from the group consisting of diisostearyl malate, polyol monoesters and polyesters and poly hydroxystearic acids , and mixtures thereof. The composition according to claim 11 , wherein said dispersant is present in an amount by mass ranging from 2. The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile silicone compound is a compound which is liquid at room temperature.

The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile silicone compound has a viscosity within the range from 10 to , cSt. The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile silicone compound is selected from the group consisting of non-volatile polydimethylsiloxanes PDMSs ; polydimethylsiloxanes comprising alkyl, alkoxy or phenyl groups that are pendent or at the end of a silicone chain, these groups containing from 2 to 24 carbon atoms; phenyl trimethicones, phenyl dimethicones, phenyl trimethylsiloxydiphenylsiloxanes, diphenyl dimethicones, diphenyl methyldiphenyltrisiloxanes and 2-phenylethyl trimethylsiloxysilicates; fluorosilicones comprising a fluoro group which is pendent or at the end of a silicone chain and containing from 1 to 12 carbon atoms, all or some of the hydrogen atoms of which are replaced with fluorine atoms; silicone resins; silicone gums; dimethiconols; and mixtures thereof.

The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said non-volatile silicone compound is present in an amount by mass of from 0. The composition according to claim 1 , further comprising at least one ingredient selected from the group consisting of cosmetic active agents, dermatological active agents and dyestuffs, and mixtures thereof. The composition according to claim 11 , wherein the ratio by mass of said non-volatile silicone compound relative to said dispersant is greater than or equal to 1.


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The composition according to claim 1 , further comprising at least one fatty substance other than the non-volatile silicone compound, the non-volatile hydrocarbon-based oil and the dispersant, which is selected from the group consisting of waxes, gums, fatty substances that are pasty at room temperature, and oils, and mixtures thereof. The composition according to claim 35 , wherein said dyestuffs comprise at least one pulverulent dye compound chosen from pigments and nacres, and mixtures thereof.

The composition according to claim 1 , wherein said particulate phase contains at least one absorbent or non-absorbent inert filler. The composition according to claim 40 , wherein said inert filler is selected from the group consisting of spherical fillers, lamrellar fillers, oblong fillers, and mixtures thereof. The composition according to claim 40 , wherein said inert particulate phase is present in an amount of from 0. The composition according to claim 1 , which is free of a volatile silicone. As a therapist myself, I can honestly say that watching someone else go through it is nothing in comparison to living it.

TwistedX—never make assumptions…sometimes the best therapists have had their own prior life experience with such topics they now help people heal through ;. I am just coming out of a relationship with a man who I suspect has borderline personality disorder or strong traits, rather than narcissistic personality disorder. This devaluing and being discarded after being idealized really speaks to my experience especially.

In my case, the trigger for his rage and pathological lying would often be me pulling away or being assertive, even though he had already broken up with me quite definitively. The last ploy used to get my attention, post breakup, was to tell me his mother died. Anyway, I digress. Is no contact the best approach in that circumstance also? Insights greatly appreciated. And thanks again Andrea for a great article that has started to help me make sense of this experience and the real nature of the losses I am grieving.

Good article. I think the only weakness is that it sets the bar rather high to make a determination that a partner is narcissistic. As a therapist and as the son of a pathological narcissist, I can attest to the fact that they can function quite well and carry on in society without undue notice for years. You may never know you are around one until you begin to stand up to them- this they take great exception to and you may rapidly become secondary supply at best. Really hard stuff to deal with. Once this happens, I too agree the only way to be safe is to stay away.

The accuracy of this article is almost frightening, it perfectly describes the relationship I just got out of. Stephanie…thanks for your feedback…what I would say is keep reading up on narcissistic abuse…see the list of resources at the end of the article and read, read, read. Information is power. In dating relationships, beware of the individual who swoops in and promises you the moon and back again, proposing to you in 2 days…a healthy relationship gradually builds, with mutual respect and empathy and self-disclosure. If you have already been entangled in a relationship with a narcissistic type person, then the best policy is absolutely No Contact…unless you share children, in which case you legally might have to do Limited Contact…I would highly encourage you to seek a psychotherapist who can provide you support in recovery from narcissistic abuse, and to also join an online support forum like Lisa E.

When I read this i think these are many of the qualities of my ex, but then, when i left him he told me i was a narcissist, and i have been so confused as to which one of us is the narcissist! Sally—the fact you have the capability to reflect is really a good sign of insight…which many narcissists are sorely lacking…I would recommend, as with anyone who is pulling through an abusive relationship, that they seek psychotherapy with a highly skilled psychotherapist who can provide a detailed, comprehensive assessment and work with you to answer your questions.

Very often codependents fall in love with a narcissist — they may have had a narcissistic parent, also, so the connection feels familiar. These abusive relationships further undermine the codependents little self-esteem. Underneath both suffer from shame. My jaw dropped the first time I read your writing on this subject which was a couple of weeks ago. I have printed out both articles and read them daily to remind myself to avoid ever dating another man with this affliction as well as sent copies to all my single girlfriends.

It was so easy to get swept away in all the drama, the ups and downs, highs and lows with the narcissist, but now know what an incredible sham the whole thing was. You truly could not have described in more accurate detail what I went through. My mother is without a doubt a narcissist, and I have dealt with treating my co-depency all my life. Now at 59, the puzzle is finally coming together! The impact of my relationship with my partner led me to almost commit suicide. But she had to tell me how great this new man was, how intelligent and talented, how they are going to keep his apartment in the city and his country property, how he has motorbikes etc.

For anyone who is in a relationship with a person with strong narcissistic traits I warn you to be careful. I was never good enough and got to the most tragic point. Thank God for my children who saved me from doing it. Trying to stay Near Positive People.. One Day at a Time.

One Day at a Time.. I truly wish more was written and openly discussd about this type of abuse. I am grateful to this author for helping to increase awareness of something that has the very real potential to completely destroy lives. Before March of this year, I did not know that this type of abuse had a name. If someone would have asked me if I had heard of Narcissistic Abuse, I would have simply equated it with abuse by a Narcissistic person and that is very misleading.

After enduring the most horrific emotional abuse I have ever experienced at the hands of a psychologist I had taken my two small children to for counseling, I endured even more trauma in the aftermath trying to understand what actually happened in the abusive relationship.

Narcissistic Abusers are quite skilled at leaving the victim with all of the guilt and blame for the abuse. After I refused to see this therapist any longer, I spent 9 months trying to understand if he was trying to help me like he insisted or literally trying to kill me. That made it even harder to heal from the abuse. I spent every waking minute thinking about what happened searchign for somehting I had missed that could make all if make sense. They are still searching for answers and carrying the guilt and blame with them for not having done enough to prevent the destruction of the relationship.

Glad the article was of help and put a name to very covert, insidious abuse. It is not discussed often because many do not understand it. However, with more awareness, more people are armed with information and can protect themselves from dangerous relationships. I have read so many of these websites, desperately trying to find words that will bring me peace or closure or…something to just stop it hurting. I was the love of his life, but I abandoned him so what was he supposed to do when this girl came and saved him where I had dropped him.

Feelings of guilt transferred to me…I am so terribly insecure now, after being so independent and strong growing up! How do I get back to normal? How do I leave him behind where he belongs and stop shedding a single tear for him? I wish there was a quick fix button…. I have a friend who has been married 20 years to a very successful physician. Here are some details of her relationship with him:. Her father is a physician as well. Her parents were very strict and controlling, enforced with verbal and physical abuse on occasion, forbidding her to go out with friends, while driving her to do well in school and other activities.

When she met her future husband, they had both been recently divorced. She was about to go away for a few months for a nursing job, when he literally swept her off her feet and took her to Las Vegas to be married before she left to go on this job. After they were married, she quit the job rather than going away. She was filled with great admiration and love for him for roughly the first half of their marriage.

She thought of him glowingly as her rock, white knight and the love of her life. She did everything and anything he wanted her to do. She changed who she was to be who he wanted her to be. Instead she focused on being the best home-maker she could be. She loved to cook and perfected meals. She kept the house very clean all the time.

She did everything for their two boys. She was always very driven, so that was how she used her energy. He always had the last word on any subject related to them and their family. She spoke that often their was fear- both from her and her sons- shortly he would come home from work that everything was not done- dinner, clean house, etc. Her boys would express this as well and tell her to hurry and get things done or Dad would be angry. Roughly 10 years ago, she had the first desire to divorce him. She was upset when he flirted with other women at parties.

It was also around this time that he no longer satisfied her sexually. Still, she went on as before, but now more unhappily, mostly for the sake of their boys. A little over a year ago, she found out he was having an affair. This was devastating to her on so many levels. Apparently he had known the woman for 6 years. She felt she had lost her best friend, husband, her rock, her everything in one blow. It challenged everything she thought about love, marriage, everything. In the months after the discovery, she would often go stay in a hotel by herself with a candle and drink by herself rather than be in the house with him.

She stopped having sex with him. Since she discovered his infidelity, he has become increasingly hostile toward her verbally.

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They have been in counseling for over a year now. She is increasingly stressed and unhappy with her marriage and does not want to spend any time with him because it is so unpleasant. It is this last point that is most concerning to me. My thought is that the counselor has not identified the husband as a narcissist, otherwise he would not be trying to preserve the marriage through counseling.

Jade— I would suggest seeing a psychotherapist who specializes in this area as well as joining the aforementioned support forums online— with time, you will recover and move on to love someone who loves you back in a healthy way… Jay— sounds like you have a lot of concern for your friend…have you addressed your worries with her directly? If she and her significant other are in couples therapy, then it sounds like they are working on their issues… You can always share this article with her and see what she has to say…obviously, this is not a forum to actually diagnose people…she is lucky he has such a caring and concerned friend looking out for her interests….

Andrea- thank you for the feedback and advice. I met her the other day and asked her if she thought her husband was a narcissist. This did not surprise me entirely, and yet she seems stuck in what to do. She does not see an immediate need to end the relationship, primarily for the sake of her 14 and 16 year old sons it seems.

Anyway, it appears his relationship with the other woman may have ended against his will, so now he seems more focused in a bi-polar way on her again. Their couple counseling is on an individual basis she ended the couple sessions after he repeatedly lied to the counselor. Very sad and troubling situation.

And yet the counselor is trying to preserve their marriage. Apparently she asked him for a separation a year ago, but he refused, and he said he will not divorce her either. She has said that if he asked, she would divorce him, but she is afraid of her kids reaction if she were to ask for a divorce. Jay— again, your friend is very fortunate to have your support…all you can do is continue to be a reality-tester and help her to know of resources that might assist her see bibliography — she may need a different therapist who understands narcissism more completely — it is, ultimately, your friends choice how she proceeds with her life…but, armed with information, hopefully she will choose her own self-preservation and mental health— a happy mom is a happy family, whether or not there are two parents in the picture…best wishes!

Andrea- Thanks again for your feedback. I think I have done what I can while at the same time trying to respect her privacy and independence. I get the feeling she knows what she wants to do, but is preparing for the right time for her. Thanks again. Jay- yes, it sure does sound like you have done everything you can to support your friend. Sounds like she has a good-sounding board in you.

I would focus on your own self-care and release the issue at this time. Best wishes in your journey, Andrea. This is so classic — frightening really because I can identify so strongly. I have been in a relationship much like this for 5 years. I even went to counseling and they never saw it which made me feel even more isolated and confused. Worse yet, we spend endless hours trying to figure out what we did wrong.

We were not married and have no children together, thank goodness. I gave up my job to work with him, gave away most of my belongs my bad decisions and gave it my all in the relationship. He was very charismatic in the beginning but soon I realized he was shallow and unfeeling towards other people pain. Him and I bought a house together which is down the street from my daughter and her family. When I left, I also signed this house over to him because I did not want any ties. The narc hated my son in law and never had anything nice to say about him.

Now the narc and my son in law are best friends, but I know my son in law needs the money his is making off of him at this moment. He thinks he has the narc under control…. I know he is wrong and the hatchet will fall with him as soon as the narc no longer needs him. We live in small community and the narc decided to remodel this house the one we bought together on a grand scale and so it is being noticed by everyone in this community. Originally he was going to sell it and I was all for that, just to get him away from me and family. But now it seems he wants to keep rubbing my nose in it for breaking it off with him.

He is even trying to get his family to move here???? He is taking my family to nice places to eat and giving them money which they need but it is making me feel sick to my stomach. My son and his family has broken ties with him but my son in law has not. When I broke it off with the narc, I did the no contact rule, went back to work and even starting taking some college classes.

I have accepted that he is a narc and uses people, is shallow and hurts people without a conscious. I have always been a forgiving person and I want to move on without his baggage cluttering my life. I do not want to move from this area, my family lives here, children and grandchildren,they are my family and not his, although he has a strained relationship with his kids and almost no contact with his grandchildren.

The narc always told me how wonderful my kids and grandkids were, and how they always treated him with respect. I tried to raise my children to treat others the same way they treat themselves, with dignity and respect. My children are raising their children the same way. But I am at my wits ends on how to get him to move on.

I have also been told he bad mouths every chance he gets. Any advice would be appreciated on how to handle this. I am adding to my original comment, I almost feel like I am venting. Before I met the narc, I had been divorced for almost 10 years and had dated some but had not found someone I wanted to have a long term relationship with.

I had a job with people I liked, a decent place to live, was close to my family, had close friends and volunteered to help our troops. My life was good by my standards. The narc swept me off my feet; I thought he was the one. He put me on a pedestal and would call and text me. We talked of building a future together so when he suggested I quit my job and work together we are flood adjusters it seemed like the right thing to do.

We would save our money and buy a place together and grow old together. I gave up my place and gave away most of my material things; I thought I was doing the right thing. He admired how I was so close to my children and grandchildren as he was not close to his. It was slow but soon I was realized I had not seen my friends or volunteered anymore. And everything I did, wore or said was wrong, He would say mean things and hurt my feelings, but when I would say something about it, he would say I was wrong and he did not say or do those things.

I started recording some of our conversations and would play them back just to check my own memory. I really thought I was losing my mind. I was right, he was saying and doing mean things. I thought maybe his mind was not clear because he would drink almost daily and usually too much.

A few months ago, he told me that he did not trust me and doubted I loved him.

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It was like a light bulb went off, that was way our relationship was not in good shape. He also told me that when we met I did not have a place to live, a job, furniture or clothes. He said everything I have is because he gave it to me. He also told me that I was a drunk? I left, I signed the house we bought together over to him and did the no contact rule.

I just wanted him out of my life. I almost feel he wanted my life, he wanted to be me. I have always prided myself on being close to my family, friends and community. My family has told me I have been a great mom and nana, and they want me in their lives forever but their relationship with the narc is optional and right now they need his money the money I helped to put in our account that he withdrew down to the last penny when I told him it was over.

I just want my life back free from his drama and bad mouthing of me and others including my kids who he adores now. I have at times thought about calling him and telling him what I think of him. I would like tell him to move on and get out of our lives, but I know that will only fuel his feelings that he is special. I do not feel I should have to move away from my family, friends and community, they were mine long before they were his now I sound narcissistic.

Even my kids have told me it like he wants to torture me for breaking it off. I believe they are now his narc supply and he will hurt them like he did me but they need the money right now. I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place.

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I just want him gone out of my life, any suggestions would be appreciated. Leslie, many colleges have counseling services that are available at low or no cost to current students. Check with your university health service. There are therapists who do low or no cost counseling, too. I am trying to recover from a relationship in which I believe my ex is a narcissist. There were lots of red flags at the beginning e. But after a space of a week, he came back and we basically continued as normal. Over a period of time I began to live in a state of uncertainty, confusion and what I find most deplorable, is he made me question my own judgment.

I could have written your piece, nearly word for word. So grateful he did. Just dealing with the fall out of crazy making. It gets better! Helps to remind ourselves to quit thinking healthy responses can come from an unhealthy mind. I found myself baffled with his bizarre thinking. But getting out meant I could live again.

Life is good. Andrea, thank you for writing this article. I will be sharing it with clients for sure. I jumped off with a whole lot of injuries, but I still am walking away, healing as I go. You can and will too. Only you can decide when Enough is Enough. After awhile…well, one day, you just jump off. I have read so much trying to make sense of what has happened to me. Your description is by far the best I have seen yet.

It is so hard to have lived thru something that i thought i would never live thru only to come out into a world that I have no idea how to relate to anymore. It is truly like learning to live again. I am out but I still feel crazy and find myself most comfortable when I am alone. I think it is because I have become so accustomed to the feeling. Anyway I usually just read the stories but I had to respond to your perfect description of the hell they so perfectly manipulate u into willingly putting yourself into. I really appreciated this article. I feel so empowered and could relate to many of the comments.

Where is part two??? Will he ever come out of this disaster. He hated her an seen her nasty ways before the brainwashing began. He is now 18 graduating in 6 months and hoping to join the military. NM started this when she found out he told the law about sisters abuse. Should I just let go…. How can I actually find a therapist trained in treating the victims of narcissistic abuse? Hi Toni, Thanks for your question.

If you use the Advanced Search function on GoodTherapy. After selecting a therapist or several to email, you may want to specify that you are looking for some help in recovery from narcissistic abuse. The vast majority who specialize in abuse or relationship problems will have experience and expertise with concerns about narcissism. His personality traits include but not limited to — self critical about weight, getting older, name dropping, always talking about his past achievements, loved to get new things all the time, he helped me get my first car and credit card, he was often critical of celebrities but always loved the lifestyle of the rich and famous, he would always compare himself to his sibling who made great money.

After the break up, he treated me cold. The one thing that still holds me to believe he had some sort of heart was how big of a mess he was breaking up with me, he was sobbing, and kept apologizing and said he still loved me. It was a big cluster fuck of emotions. In hindsight, he had left what he claimed to be his best friend since high school to start a relationship with me. According to him, his best friend had been in love with him a long time and was jealous of him dating me.

Put on your Nike sneakers and run! If he was right for you you never would have to ask that question. Wow, I think that is one of the best answers I have seen on one of these sites. You nailed it! We get very hung up on a diagnosis, and it makes sense that we do. So, my point is this, sometimes we just want an answer!


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And sometimes we see and learn that we too are sick in ways, and that these unhealed things are what the Narc would use. These are OUR points of progress we can come away with, though, that we can take the stuff in ourselves that the Narc pointed to and face it, own it, and heal it. And we need to heal our selves, our hearts. We do not have to be broken, but can have ourselves been broken open. Thank you for your very simple answer, and for reading my long-winded reply. I have just got out of a relationship with a person who has all the characteristics.

I feel hurt, angry and empty. I tried so hard and it was draining. I met this girl about 6 years ago and liked her. About a year ago she got fired from her job. So I called her and we started seeing each other. Her sense of humor was sarcastic like mine. She was maninpulative, but in a very attractive way; a real turn on.

She was like a dream girl. She was having financial problems so I started helping her out with her groceries, gas, utilities, insurance, student loan, etc… It all added up to about over 10 months. Despite all this her house was going into foreclosure in January. So I loaned her another Ever since that loan her attitude has changed dramatically. We had some arguments before, but not like these. The verbal abuse is shocking. She would make threats all the time. For example after about a month of this verbal abuse and being stood up multiple times, she calls me and wants me to help her out with her utility payment or they are shutting off her power.

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So for about 3 days she gave me non stop verbal abuse over the phone. Well I snapped and I finally let into her about the way she had been treating me since I loaned her that money. Her response was not that she was sorry, but that she would never forgive me. I stated that she had abused me 10 times the amount I had been mean to her. She then stated that I was a compulsive liar and that she did not trust me and she threatened to never see me again.

I disagreed with that to no avail. I just wanted things to go back to the way they were before I loaned her that money. When she was like a dream girl. So she calls me up and she wants a new bike. So I said I am not going to get her anything because the more I do for her the worse she treats me. She lit into me like I have never heard. She said that I never give her anything out of the kindness of my heart, that she hates me, and I am an idiot. I called her on Monday and stated that it was a good idea not to talk for the next 2 weeks.

I think perhaps she has a new victim because she has only texted me a couple of times over the last 4 days. I am disinterested in everything now and I feel like I have no purpose, i. So many times I knew here texts were going to be nasty, but I just had to read them. It was like I was addicted to the pain. Sounds like u have really been taken advantage of. At this point I think u need to cut your losses and run away; no looking back. Reading your story is just like you put my thoughts into words! Its not easy.. Ive lied to myself for bout 5 years…… its painful!! Be blessed.. BPD people are at the mercy of their over reaching and over active emotions, with a large touch of seeing the world as a cynical and untrustable place thrown in.

Our largest problem is an exisistential fear of abandonement. BPD hurt others only secondary to intense fear of abandonement and the pain that it evokes. They often feel extreme guilt and empathy days, weeks or even months later for the hurt they cause over reacting to this fear. Narcissists are in fact the exact opposite. They hurt people because they are not in touch with themselves and their feeling. What this says about the human condition is that healthy people fall somewhere between these two extremes.

Ansel…you are certainly entitled to your opinion. However, I respectfully disagree. Best wishes to you. I should be over it, right? Right after I left Brett Gyllenskog swooped up one of my good friends, she was moved in with him within a month of me leaving. I thought that she was one of my best friends. I just have to remind myself that I also fell victim to his manipulation so many times. She is now in the same pain I was and although my hurt and anger are still here ultimately I feel pity on her.

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I just wanted to thank all of you that have commented and to those who wrote the article. Especially all the parts about, sleep, reactive depression, nightmares, etc.. I thought I was crazy and totally lame that I still carry the pain around and dream of him and her so often still. They will manipulate you every time you try to leave.

I promise that It will never end! It is impossible for them to change because of the type disorder they have does not allow them to look at themselves the way that we can and they NEVER will be able to. So ultimately please hear my advice… I do realize that kids and marriage make this even more complex and difficult ….

I accidentally replied to Julie but meant to reply to u Stacey. Thank you for this — i left him and he managed to sway me back only to leave me 5 weeks ago and move straight in with someone else and the son she has with one of his friends. I can so relate to your words! I am in the middle of a messy divorce with my narcissistic sociopathic husband. He was a cowboy; a man of integrity. There was not an ounce of integrity in him. It was impossible for him to go through a day without lying multiple times.

How foolish I was! I put every penny I had after selling my paid-for home and everything I owned into his run-down neglected ranch and worked myself nearly to death saving it and building the assets. We live in a resort mountain community and lack for nothing. He loves that I know how to do things but hates me for it. He would have preferred it if I had died. He started dating 2 weeks after I left and, of course, chose one of my fiends. He makes sure I know he is giving my things away.

All of his children have been turned against me. He intentionally does things to hurt my children, who adored him. He is totally evil and without conscience or empathy. One of the hardest things to come to terms with has been accepting the fact that that wonderful, tender, gentle cowboy that I so completely loved…devoted my life to…. NEVER existed. That is a very bitter pill to swallow. All of this is true. I think the point at which you start to feel confused like maybe YOU are the one who is narcissistic is a big red flag that it is time to go.

At that point the NARC has gotten to you! One thing I have discovered is that a NARC is often generous to you and your friends and family This may also confuse you. It is about their reflection ie how their being generous reflects on them and makes them look good as well as being a disguise! In other word it is all about THEM. This was a major realization for me. I got into this situation and it took six months to realize he was a narcissist.

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The way I got in it and got stuck was my codependency issues. There is a more subtle form of this abuse, which can be found in the high functioning and covert narcissist, often found in women, who are astute enough not to blow there cover. Be prepared for your efforts to confront the abuser to be met with lies and denials, having your history changed and distorted ever so discreetly, See the tim Gaslight and you be made to look like the abuser. You may all end up looking foolish and loosing friends, but those that leave were captivated by the abuser and in a way victims also.

It hurts, and the mess after hurts too, but the most profound disturbance comes from knowing that it was all a lie. Look at your boundaries. My relationship lasted 7 years.